The challenges of “Real” vs. “the Show”

A few weeks ago, I was having a conversation with a close friend about the pressure to have a personal presence on social media, especially when running a person-focused business. While I understood the importance of it logically, I couldn’t ignore the uneasiness and fear I felt about consistently putting myself out there. Instead of letting fear dictate my actions, I decided to delve deeper into my emotions and explore the reasons behind my reluctance.

Upon reflection, I realised that authenticity has always been a significant aspect of my life. I’ve strived to be true to myself, and it has been my safe space. However, there have been times when I had to conceal my true self to protect myself, especially in toxic and harmful relationships. Additionally, hearing stories or rumours about me being shared by others felt like a violation of my identity, causing me to withdraw further.

Nevertheless, as I embarked on a journey of finding my voice, I knew that being seen was an inevitable part of the process. Being seen, though, meant vulnerability. It meant opening myself up to criticism, judgment, and the potential for rejection. This realisation magnified my concerns about maintaining my authenticity in a world that often feels saturated with pretence and people living and presenting in “the Show”.

Remaining “real” amidst the “the Show” became my quest. It demanded introspection, courage, and resilience. I started by reconnecting with my values, reminding myself of what truly mattered to me. I discovered that having a clear understanding of my values provided a compass for my decisions and actions, both online and offline.

I also acknowledged that I didn’t have to be present on every social media platform. Instead, I chose to be selective, opting for platforms that resonated with me and allowed me to express myself genuinely. I released the pressure of maintaining an image across multiple platforms and focused on cultivating authenticity in spaces where I felt comfortable.

Embracing vulnerability was another crucial step. I accepted that being authentic meant revealing my true self, including my flaws and insecurities. It meant sharing my stories, experiences, and thoughts with honesty and sincerity. By embracing vulnerability, I discovered a profound sense of connection with others who appreciated and related to my authenticity. Setting healthy and realistic boundaries was vital for protecting my well-being. I am continually learning to define what I am comfortable sharing and what aspects of my life I prefer to keep private and only share with those who had shown through words and actions that they have “earned the right” to know the deeper side of me. Thus, recognising my agency over my online presence empowered me to choose what to share and what to keep sacred.

Navigating the world of social media while remaining true to myself is an ongoing journey. Doubts and fears have arisen and I am sure will continue to arise, but I’ve learned to trust myself and honour my truth. Authenticity isn’t a destination; it’s a continuous process of self-discovery and growth. By staying grounded in my values, embracing vulnerability, and cultivating a supportive and like minded community, I strive to live authentically in all aspects of my life, both online and offline. Ultimately, the most profound connection I can make is with myself, and that authenticity will radiate through everything I do.